Building Stronger Relationships One Adventure At A Time!
Bikin’ Dads Adventures was founded with hopes to encourage all fathers to be involved more in the lives of their children. Offering various events to help build and strengthen the relationships between the fathers and their children, counseling for fathers in conjunction with the National Fatherhood Initiative.
While our “Adventures” are geared more in the positive effects of BICYCLE’s it’s not the only way we hope to connect. We also provide mentor’s and positive role model’s for those with no father figure in their lives.
Bikin’ Dads initially began as a dream, a dream on how to help Dad’s in America starting right here in the Charlotte region strengthen their relationships with his children & how we can make a difference. Being a Dad, a local Civil Servant for 15 years, first hand and in depth experiences had been observed and felt personally. Children with lack of support from their Dad’s; not because he doesn’t want to, but because he doesn’t know how to or other various forms of “life obstacles”. Seeing many kids from all walks of life, to include all races and cultures experience the same life scenarios, because Dad’s can and do make a difference!
While maintaining a law enforcement career and being a dad, the dream of being in the bicycle industry and a self made entrepreneur became a reality. I successfully co-founded a local bicycle shop in March 2012, meeting many bicycle industry professionals and making many friends along the way. While my tenure there lasted 2 years or so, the decision was to move on, to move on because of a fire inside feeling that there is something else I’m supposed to do. A fire to continue to help those around, show the positive effects of the having involved Dads, the positive effects of physical and mental “activity” in the lives of those around us, in the form of the BICYCLE!
Though professionally, I had worked alongside hundreds of men and women in which the bicycle was a tool, used in community involvement, enforcement and education for many years. Attending various trainings and achieving certifications, being a leader for various bicycle related deployments, organizing community events. I felt that I could use this “tool”, the personal experiences, bicycle industry relationships and of course the BICYCLE to begin my adventure of helping Dads strengthen their relationships.
After months of thought, discussion and prayer, the decision was made to begin, Bikin’ Dads Adventures, were our goal is to help and strengthen those through peer support, education, life encouragement and physical activity.
While we know, not all children have a dad or access to positive male role models in their lives, Bikin’ Dads Adventures hopes to be able to provide a core group of volunteers who expressed the same passion towards empowering today’s youth through the various positive effects of having that father figure in their lives. All volunteers will have gone through extensive background and criminal background checks, and all are encouraged to give us a chance.
Our goals for this adventure include monthly socials, group events, one on one counseling, peer support and showcasing what positive male role models in the community can do for the community itself. We plan on having our own Bikin’ Dads Adventures Race Team in the many various regional bicycle events, where the kids get to ride as well as the Dads, showing the youth and Dads teamwork, cheering their loved one on through the “thick & thin” of life.
Founder of Bikin’ Dads Adventures
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 24 million children in America — one out of every three — live in biological father-absent homes. Nine in ten American parents agree this is a “crisis.” Consequently, there is a “father factor” in nearly all of the social issues facing America today. But the hope lies in the fact that children with involved fathers do better across every measure of child well-being than their peers in father-absent homes. Furthermore, according to the national surveys conducted by NFI, 9 in 10 parents believe there is a father absence crisis in America. This study, an excellent resource on the impact of father-child involvement, also describes how “increased involvement of fathers in their children’s lives has been associated with a range of positive outcomes for the children.”
In a study examining father involvement with 134 children of adolescent mothers over the first 10 years of life, researchers found that father-child contact was associated with better socio-emotional and academic functioning. The results indicated that children with more involved fathers experienced fewer behavioral problems and scored higher on reading achievement. This study showed the significance of the role of fathers in the lives of at-risk children, even in case of nonresident fathers.
Many people are surprised at what research shows with respect to the connection between father absence and an increase in social problems in America, including poverty, teen pregnancy, juvenile delinquency, physical abuse, suicide, substance and alcohol abuse and a host of other troubling social problems. The sad fact is that not only does father absence hurt children, fathers suffer as well. Developing positive relationships with their children encourages and motivates fathers to lead more constructive lives, even in the most difficult of circumstances. In addition, research and experience tell us that there is a strong correlation between lack of father involvement and many larger social challenges. Sadly, trends are against us.
Source: National Fatherhood Initiative- http://Fatherhood.org, Howard, K. S., Burke Lefever, J. E., Borkowski, J.G., & Whitman , T. L. (2006). Fathers’ influence in the lives of children with adolescent mothers. Journal of Family Psychology, 20, 468- 476